Brick of Belief


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Belief: Something one accepts as true or real; a firmly held opinion or conviction.

Have you ever believed in something or someone so much that you would bet your last dollar on them and their success? No one can tell you different about this person or their abilities, because you know without a shadow of a doubt that they are walking on a path that leads to happiness and blessings. Now, would ever believe that this person betted on is YOU?!

Most people have an idea of the life that they want to live complete with all of their hearts desires. This could be a life with your family together and unified in happiness, at your dream job fulfilling your passion, or even helping others to be the best version of themselves. Whatever picture is painted in your mind as your perfect life, know that in order to obtain this life you must lay your foundation and work hard for it. However, what I’ve learned recently is that the most important brick in laying this foundation is your ability to believe. I’m not talking about any belief, because we can all believe in ourselves and our work ethic to get things done, but what about when that work ethic doesn’t produce results. What about when all of the arrows seem to be pointed in the opposite direction of your dream, and you can’t seem to understand all the “how’s” and “why’s” during the obstacles in your journey? These are the critical moments that have the power to either push you off your path into a dead-end, or push you into your destiny through unwavering belief.

Belief has the power to break any bondage that the enemy tries to place on you. It has the strength to carry you over and through any dense fog and thunderstorms that your path may produce. But best of all…it has the power to make anyone who places a bet on your success in life a champion! …..winner-winner chicken dinner !! :)

Givenchy Crystal Stud Earrings

Heel and Sole Sexy Strappy Heel

Quay Kittie Cat-Eye Sunglasses

Mural ‘Honey’ Blazer (Nordstrom Online Exclusive)

H&M+ Long Shirt – White

Toad&Co Sidekick Jegging


Photographer: Minx of


Xo, Chrissy Joy

Writings on the Wall


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Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one -Colossians 4:6 

Have you ever had someone critique you, but not in a way that was meant to help you learn from past mistakes or build you up? Their words were intentionally meant to bring you down and make you question your value, or if you can ever change from making those mistakes. At this point, those words have become embedded as written words on the wall of your heart that are hard to erase with any store-bought eraser or flimsy apologies.

I’ve been learning this past week about how much power we have with our words. When they aren’t used correctly or don’t build others up they can easily become the demise of someone’s drive or happiness. The worst part is sometimes we don’t even realize when we’ve done it. I can admit that every now and then I can have a sarcastic mouth and say things directed towards others in a joking manner. But you can always tell when that sarcasm isn’t quite perceived the way you intended it by the facial expression of the person who was supposed to be laughing…but isn’t. By this time, no matter how many times you say “it’s a joke, lighten up!” or “I see someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!” those words have already been written in stone on the wall of that persons heart.

It wasn’t until I had the same situation happen to me and got a taste of my own medicine that I felt that sting, and started to question how many of my seemingly harmless sarcastic sayings had caused this same sting to others! It only takes a few seconds to put out words of hurt, but once they’re said you can never take them back.

Most people will say the solution to this problem is to “think before you speak”, which definitely is a great start, but I know that the odds of me actually stopping to analyze what I’m gonna say will take one too many seconds for my liking (I used to have horrible patience!). It wasn’t until I added prayer for patience, and for the words that come from my mouth to edify others, that I began to see results. I also asked God to help me uplift others and to not be so hurtful with my jokes. I wanted others to leave my presence happy, full of joy and motivated for the future not feeling negative about it.

We all have the power to do the same thing with our words. Be intentional about being the light in someone’s life with what you say! If their day hasn’t seen any sunshine yet, let it begin to shine the moment you open your mouth! :)


** All items that I am wearing are available for purchase at below links, unfortunately my booties are no longer available at Zara, but I found a super cute alternative that is now on sale at Macy’s at the below link! ** 

H&M Rib-knit Hat – Gray melange • H&M •

H&M Turtleneck Sweater – Light beige melange • H&M •

H&M 2-pack Over-knee Socks – Gray/black • H&M •

H&M 6-pack Rings – Gold-colored • H&M •

Thalia Sodi Ohlivia Side Lace-Up Booties, Only at Macy’s • Thalia Sodi •

 Roslin Wool Asymetrical Hoodie : Available by Order at

Photographer: Najah Cobb


Xo, Chrissy Joy

Seed of Gratitude 


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Happy Thanksgiving Lovies!

I hope you all are having an amazing day filled with love, good food and gratitude.

I wasn’t sure if I was going to have a post this year on Thanksgiving, but last night sparked a bit of gratitude in my heart that I had to spill about! :)

Although I wasn’t able to spend Thanksgiving Day with my family this year due to work, I went home this past weekend and celebrated with them early! In order to keep the North Carolina celebration going I spent Thanksgiving Eve in New York with a few girlfriends from my home state that are here for the holidays. As we kicked backed on the rooftop of the Refinery Hotel and laughed about life over a few glasses of wine, we began a discussion about all the things in our life that we are grateful for. It began with the usual family and amazing friends that we have in our lives, but it later began to dig into the dark places of our lives that have now been brought to an area of light because of perseverance.

The idea of living in New York City to many can seem like an invigorating lifestyle that includes nonstop hustle & bustle, beautiful skylines & parties, and a dream being made. This happens for some, but not for all. For many it is a struggle to find a decent apartment that is bigger than a matchbox and doesn’t cost over $1200, or to be a artist and stay at a job that has nothing to do with your craft and/or passion but pays the bills. At times, some may find themselves having to crash on a couch because they need time to save money. Others may find themselves contemplating if this city is even worth the fight to survive. These are all the sometime grim realities of living in New York City. However, what we realized is that during these difficult times a seed is planted inside of us. You must be determined to take care of that seed and have the patience to watch it grow into something beautiful, because many give up and don’t believe that the current elements will be able to produce anything beautiful. But it is the few who persevere and continue to water what is inside of them that can see the beautiful gift that has been forming all along and continues to grow.

Although none of us are at a place where we feel our seed is fully bloomed, it is so amazing to be able to see how all of the struggles and setbacks have placed us on our current path to greatness. It gave us a attitude of gratitude and so much to be thankful for on this beautiful Thanksgiving Day! :)


Turtleneck: Forever 21 || Boyfriends Jeans: Express || Jacket: Father & Son Antiques || Boots: BCBG Maxzria

Photographer: Najah Cobb

Xo, Chrissy Joy

Let’s Fly 


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To all the girls that’s hurting
Let me be your mirror
Help you see a little bit clearer
The light that shines within – “Scars to Beautiful” by Alessia Cara

We all have a story….something that has brought us from a life that we may not be so proud of and/or tested every bit of our being, but it was necessary to bring us to where we are today. During that journey we may not have realized that our attitude and perspective during that period would determine how long that portion of our journey would last.

Growing up, I’ve always respected celebrities and other influential people who use their platform to help others. Oprah, in particular always stood out to me because her journey was so rough and it truly tested her power to believe in the gift that she had inside. Now, she uses that same gift to help other women and girls gain knowledge and live a life worthy of their calling.

My favorite quote from her is: “You have control over your life and it is only when you recognize that and are willing to be responsible for your life that you can truly soar…and I believe that it’s possible in our lifetime to fly if you want to. I intend to do some flying.”

I have been through my fair share of obstacles and challenges and would consider myself to be someone who is still working through a few small road-blocks in my journey. However, I have come to realize that my perspective of those road-blocks and obstacles has changed throughout my journey. I no longer see them as something that is pushing me back, but instead moving me forward through the testing of my faith. I’m also learning to change my attitude to that of a victor before and during the test rather than afterward.

During this process, if I could help someone else going through a similar journey as I to change their perspective of things, then I would be even more proud of my story for that accomplishment alone.

I may not be at the top of the blogger charts for my influence, but it won’t stop me from inspiring others on my way there. :)

 Fuzzy Sweater: Topshop || White button-down: H&M || Faux Leather Pants: H&M || Necklace: Aldo Accessories || Boots:Urban Outfitters 

Photographer : Derek Sturdivant of 

Xo, Chrissy Joy 


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