Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one -Colossians 4:6
Have you ever had someone critique you, but not in a way that was meant to help you learn from past mistakes or build you up? Their words were intentionally meant to bring you down and make you question your value, or if you can ever change from making those mistakes. At this point, those words have become embedded as written words on the wall of your heart that are hard to erase with any store-bought eraser or flimsy apologies.
I’ve been learning this past week about how much power we have with our words. When they aren’t used correctly or don’t build others up they can easily become the demise of someone’s drive or happiness. The worst part is sometimes we don’t even realize when we’ve done it. I can admit that every now and then I can have a sarcastic mouth and say things directed towards others in a joking manner. But you can always tell when that sarcasm isn’t quite perceived the way you intended it by the facial expression of the person who was supposed to be laughing…but isn’t. By this time, no matter how many times you say “it’s a joke, lighten up!” or “I see someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!” those words have already been written in stone on the wall of that persons heart.
It wasn’t until I had the same situation happen to me and got a taste of my own medicine that I felt that sting, and started to question how many of my seemingly harmless sarcastic sayings had caused this same sting to others! It only takes a few seconds to put out words of hurt, but once they’re said you can never take them back.
Most people will say the solution to this problem is to “think before you speak”, which definitely is a great start, but I know that the odds of me actually stopping to analyze what I’m gonna say will take one too many seconds for my liking (I used to have horrible patience!). It wasn’t until I added prayer for patience, and for the words that come from my mouth to edify others, that I began to see results. I also asked God to help me uplift others and to not be so hurtful with my jokes. I wanted others to leave my presence happy, full of joy and motivated for the future not feeling negative about it.
We all have the power to do the same thing with our words. Be intentional about being the light in someone’s life with what you say! If their day hasn’t seen any sunshine yet, let it begin to shine the moment you open your mouth! 🙂
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Photographer: Najah Cobb
Xo, Chrissy Joy